Little Eyes Are Watching: Why Treating Your Problem Helps Your Kids Too

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It’s easy to believe that a substance abuse problem only affects the person with the problem. It’s easy to convince yourself of that. But the reality of the matter is that an untreated substance abuse problem affects far more than just the addict themselves. It affects family, friends, and most especially, the addict’s children.

“Do as I say, not as I do”

Parents are a child’s first teacher. Parents teach kids how to walk, talk, eat from a spoon, use the toilet, tie their shoes and brush their teeth. Even after they’re in school, parents are still teaching their kids so much more than they realize.

Telling your kids to avoid drugs or alcohol, even as you continue to abuse them yourself, is effectively useless. Kids learn by example, and the example being set for them is one in which drug or alcohol abuse is normal. When they see parents using drugs and alcohol, they think it’s acceptable. Depending on how long the problem has existed, if it’s the only circumstance the child has ever known, they’ll not only believe it’s normal but expected of them.

You can’t be a good role model while abusing drugs or alcohol

Even setting aside the actual ingestion of drugs or alcohol, the choices that you make while abusing these substances don’t set a good example, either. Driving drunk, going to work high, lying to friends or family, or stealing money are just a few examples of the poor choices you may make while under the influence. These behaviors aren’t ones you’d want your child to exhibit. This is why you need to seek help, so you can set a better example. Such help, like the detox treatment available at these Georgia drug rehabs, gives parents a chance to recover from bad habits which leave an equally bad impression on their kids.

You’re not able to bond as well

Part of the reason that parents are usually able to be such good role models for their children is the parent-child bond. Drugs and alcohol put a distance between the parent and the child that breaks down that bond if it’s even able to form in the first place. If you can’t bond with your child, you can’t very well expect them to listen to you or learn from you.

Getting help is the best example you can set

Admitting that you have a problem and going to rehab will show your child that substance abuse is not a good thing, but that there is hope and help. It shows them that you care enough about them, and about yourself, to work on changing. It’s quite possibly the most courageous thing you can do as a parent.

Depending on your child’s age, asking them for their support and to help you make decisions regarding rehab may help them realize how serious you are. This can be the beginning of showing them a better example, a role model they can look up to. It can also show them your sincerity about getting help.

Children need consistency, rules, and parents who are there for them. A parent addicted to drugs or alcohol can’t provide for their child’s needs the way they should. By getting help, you take the first step to being the kind of parent your child deserves and the kind of parent you’ve wanted to be all along. It takes courage and determination, but you can do it. Your children will appreciate it, and you’ll be glad you did it.

 

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My name is Lisa and my husband Carl, and I are the owners of the Night Helper Blog. We have been married for over 30 years and we have three awesome children, plus four adorable very active grandkids. From time to time they too are contributors to the Night Helper Blog. We enjoy reading, listening to music, entertaining, travel, movies and of course blogging. The Night Helper blog was created in 2008. Since then we have been blessed to partner with many well-known Brands like Best Buy, Fisher Price, Toys "R" US., Hasbro, Disney, Teleflora, ClearCorrect, Radio Shack, VTech, KIA Motor, MAZDA and many other great brands.

7 thoughts on “Little Eyes Are Watching: Why Treating Your Problem Helps Your Kids Too

  • January 27, 2018 at 8:15 am
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    Such a great and relatable post. Yes, taking care of oneself also helps the kids. I come across of mothers that are totally out of it and it reflects poorly on the child’s hygiene and mental health. Will pass on this information when speaking to such parents. Thanks for sharing!

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  • January 25, 2018 at 11:56 pm
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    Very important message. Kids really see everything. The questions keep pouring in as well. I hope those who have problems with substance abuse can realize it and really seek help.

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  • January 25, 2018 at 11:09 am
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    As a person who has worked in social services I totally get this. The kids pick up on everything! And as a parent we have to be completely aware of this. great post and thank you for sharing.

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  • January 24, 2018 at 8:23 pm
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    Children are very perceptive. I’ve had classmates and distance relatives with parents who struggled with substance abuse, one of the worst parts of the lack of stability in their lives. I’m glad we’re beginning to embrace discussing this difficult realities.

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  • January 24, 2018 at 3:27 pm
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    I don’t have any kids but this all sounds very important. A lot of people I know who had parents with substance addictions have ended up doing the same as adults. Thanks for sharing this!

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  • January 24, 2018 at 1:33 pm
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    A good message that everyone needs to read. Not just those with addiction but those who love them as well. Sadly so many look the other way. Thank you for promoting this awareness!

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  • January 24, 2018 at 10:07 am
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    I totally agree that children, no matter how young or old, sees everything…even if we think they don’t! When dealing with substance abuse, I don’t think those with those issues, exactly sees how it affects their children. Great post.

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