There’s no time more turbulent for both parent and child than navigating the tween years. For boys, it is a time of becoming increasingly independent, which can result in them pushing boundaries and asserting their freedom, which can cause conflict with their parents. With that being said, the troublesome tween years don’t have to define the childhood of your son, and as parents, we need to understand what normal development at this age is, as well as how to create appropriate boundaries without controlling or dominating them. There are many ways that parents can guide their tween boys through these formative years while still ensuring they have plenty of fun experiences along the way, and in this article, we will be discussing some tips on how to make the most out of your tween boys’ childhood. So, keep reading to learn more!
Get Involved in Their Interests
The first and one of the best ways to connect with your tween boy is to get involved in their interests. This can be something as simple as playing video games together, going to the local park down the road to play basketball or even talking about their favorite movie or TV show. Find a way to get involved in his interests; you could attend his Little League game or browse a gift guide to find a special gift for him. The important thing is to involve yourself in any capacity you can. Get him age-appropriate toys, games, and books related to those topics to nurture his favorite hobby. Buying a special gift that celebrates his interest will not only further motivate him but will also show your appreciation and support for what he cares about.
Encourage Them To Be Independent
While you must stay involved in your tween boy’s life by getting involved in their interests, it is also important that you encourage them to be independent, especially because these are the delicate years where more independence needs to be nurtured before the teen years begin. This is the time when your child is starting to develop their own identity, and as such, it is important that they feel like they have some control over their lives. By allowing your tween to make decisions such as what they want to eat or wear, you will help them feel more in control and confident, and it also shows that you trust them enough to let them make their own decisions.
Be a Good Listener
Another way to make the most of your tween boys’ childhood is to simply be a good listener. When your child is communicating with you, you should focus solely on them and listen intently. Even if you don’t agree with what your child is saying, you must listen and try to understand their point of view. This will help your child feel valued and respected, and it will also give you a better understanding of what’s going on in their lives.
Set Clear Limits
We’ve already discussed how important it is to allow your tween boy to have independence, but equally important is setting clear limits with them. By doing this, you will help them understand what is and isn’t acceptable behavior, and it will also help them feel safe and secure with you and in life in general. On top of setting clear limits, it is also important that you are consistent with your limits and that you enforce them calmly and firmly.
Be a Good Role Model
Finally, and most importantly, you need to be a good role model for your teen son. As a parent, you are your child’s first role model, and you have the power and opportunity to set the tone for how they view themselves and the world around them. With that responsibility, it is important that you show them respect and kindness and that you lead by example in every aspect of your life.
So, there you have it! Everything we think you need to know about making the most of your tween boys’ childhood. Remember, get involved in their interests, encourage them to be independent, be a good listener, set clear limits, and be a good role model.